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Post by QuickSilver on Jan 3, 2018 16:24:51 GMT -5
This topic came up on facebook today.. The question of "Hugging" or wanting to be hugged. Apparently there has been research to show that being "Hugged" four or five times a day increases a neurochemical in your brain to make you happier. So I gave it some thought.. Seriously.. I cannot think of anything that would make be LESS happy than being hugged four or five times a day. I have never understood needing to be hugged.. particularly by someone I'm not very closely related to or in a relationship with... and even with them.. hugging is not something that particularly gives me the warm fuzzies.. It's OK sometimes but it feels like an intrusion into my personal space and it makes me uncomfortable.. I dread parties or reunions when everyone is hugging the daylights out of everyone else. Maybe I'm odd... but does anyone else prefer to pass on the hugs?
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Post by robusta on Jan 3, 2018 18:07:40 GMT -5
I have grown accustomed to it throughout the years of our marriage. The Missus is of the hug kind of family. The thing I never will get used to is the male to male kissing. She is 2nd generation Polish and we are quite often host to her relatives. One cousin in particular, A big guy, early 40s, a priest, is not real fond of daily showers, exuberant man. Once gave me both cheeks and the lips. I now know to keep my distance!
How do you woman like that bristly whisker crap all over your skin? I think that if woman were as Pr*ckly as guys sex would be an arms length affair.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2018 23:00:36 GMT -5
I have a hugging family and love to be hugged. I hug my good friends also. It makes me feel good (and happier.)
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Post by highlandannie on Jan 4, 2018 4:08:41 GMT -5
I LOVE to be hugged!
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Post by QuickSilver on Jan 4, 2018 7:05:51 GMT -5
What is interesting is that I enjoy professional massage.. It does not seem as personal.. yet there is a lot more touching involved. A psychiatrist would have a field day with me I guess.
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Post by 2old on Jan 4, 2018 7:17:00 GMT -5
I never mind being hugged by a female with big boobs!!! Wait! That was sexist. I'll attempt to rephrase. I always enjoy being hugged by a beautiful... Woops! There I go again. Okay... before I alienate all on TRF.... Neither my family nor my wife's family were ever "huggers". We've not been "huggers" in our family either. The daughter and grandsons who visit us about once/month are very good at giving us hugs as they head back home. We do have hugs with our son, daughter-in-law, and grandsons who are military and we only see two or three times/year... as we arrive at their home or as we prepare to head back to our home. I am not the first to offer a hug to anyone. I don't know that I have anything against a "greeting" hug, but just have never been in a family or social situation where there was a lot of huggin' going on. My wife experienced some severe depression in the mid-1970's. When she was at her worst, it seemed just a long hug would comfort her in some of her darkest times. Many years later, I still try to remember to give her an out-of-the-blue hug while working in the kitchen or while just walking through the home or as we walk out the door to go shopping or .... She still seems to appreciate those occasional displays of affection. And, I never hesitate giving a quick hug to the most beautiful lady in this world... my wife.
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Post by louie on Jan 4, 2018 9:39:31 GMT -5
I was brought up as non hugger. However, I do like to give hugs as a way of greeting good friends. I hug my husband often.
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Post by Kady on Jan 4, 2018 9:47:14 GMT -5
We were not huggers growing up either but my children and grands have brought it into our lives and to me 'its a good thing'.
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Post by chinadoll1981 on Jan 4, 2018 14:50:44 GMT -5
I confess... I am a big hugger...
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Post by formerlyme on Jan 4, 2018 15:14:43 GMT -5
The family I grew up in weren't huggers. I'm not keen on hugs with random acquaintances or people I don't share a genuine affection with. Those kinds of 'social' hugs always feel perfunctory and meaningless to me.
However, I adore hugs with those I feel close to. My son, grandson, and I always exchange hugs when they arrive or leave, or when we meet at their home or elsewhere. Those make me feel loved and comforted, and I believe it does the same for them.
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Post by smitty45 on Jan 4, 2018 16:37:52 GMT -5
I come from a huggy family. As far as being hugged by a complete stranger,,, no idea,,, never has happened. As far as hugging a male,,, those days ended as each uncle passed, and the last time I hugged a male was the day my dad died.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2018 17:38:06 GMT -5
A psychiatrist would have a field day with me I guess. Now there's something we can agree on!
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Post by Warrigal on Jan 4, 2018 18:37:44 GMT -5
I'm not a touchy feely person but I give and like to receive a hug at times of sorrow, when words fail.
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Post by QuickSilver on Jan 4, 2018 18:51:28 GMT -5
I'm not a touchy feely person but I give and like to receive a hug at times of sorrow, when words fail. I think what I dislike is the full front on bear hug type hugs... A softer to the side hug is more to my liking.
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Post by QuickSilver on Jan 4, 2018 18:52:45 GMT -5
A psychiatrist would have a field day with me I guess. Now there's something we can agree on! You really need to let it go @tobytyler... It's quite tiring... and a bit immature.. don't you think.... Get over it... K?
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