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Post by chinadoll1981 on Jul 23, 2018 12:47:13 GMT -5
He'll be back. He might have a different name but I believe he will be back. The very first chat room I was on had a poster who went by the name of Bad Karma. He was too! I believe one or two people on here might even remember him. Bad Karma could have chewed Toby up, spit him out, and scattered his bones around town. In the beginning I got along with Bad Karma. Till this day I'm not sure why. lol. One day he posted something about people walking across his lawn and he fired a few bullets over their heads! Their car broke down, or something like that, and they were from out of state. I strongly disagreed with him about shooting at people! He believed he was protecting his property from trespassers and from that day on he was on he was my sworn enemy. He'd reply to every post I made with vile and nasty comments. Each and every time I posted! When one of my cats was sick and dying was not an exception. He was cruel and heartless. That was the last straw for me. I never, ever looked at anything he posted after that including any of his replies to me. He said some violent and disgusting things. But, I didn't have to look at them. He was nothing but words on a screen and for my own sanity I had to SOB. He wasn't worth even a half a second of my time. No one should make you feel uncomfortable.... that is what I say.... if people are civil then okay.... if no civil.... ignore and no worry about them.... I sorry you had bad experience.... I no wish anyone to leave but.... sometime the line in sand is crossed and I understand.... I just hope she stay! ( I like this little fox.... I think I'll use it!)
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Post by birdgal on Jul 23, 2018 13:18:22 GMT -5
Then I tried ignoring him... that also didn't work... the minute I posted anything he attacked me... THEN I tried making a joke out of it.. that also encouraged him...and he stepped up his attacks.. So nothing I tried on my own worked.. I know how you feel. That relentless badgering even if you post a picture of a flower you know what's coming. So annoying. As if you are a chew toy and he's an abused/neglected pit bull ready to pounce. I hope you continue to post here and truly find some refuge. There really is a bad apple in every single bunch!
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 13:22:59 GMT -5
Post by Drifter on Jul 23, 2018 13:22:59 GMT -5
When I saw you were going to do NOTHING with him I tried many tactics... One tactic you didn't try was reporting his post.
IF you objected to anything lobbed at you, it should have been reported, by you, at that time. It was not. Therefore, staff will not act upon something that was not reported through the proper channels.
But, FYI...Reported posts have come to our staff's attention regarding you in June...none from Toby though. Just thought you should know that.
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 13:25:00 GMT -5
Post by birdgal on Jul 23, 2018 13:25:00 GMT -5
Chinadoll, I like that little fox too!
While that experience was a bad one in hindsight it was a valuable lesson. If it makes me uncomfortable don't go there.
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 13:29:50 GMT -5
Post by QuickSilver on Jul 23, 2018 13:29:50 GMT -5
When I saw you were going to do NOTHING with him I tried many tactics... One tactic you didn't try was reporting his post.
IF you objected to anything lobbed at you, it should have been reported, by you, at that time. It was not. Therefore, staff will not act upon something that was not reported through the proper channels.
But, FYI...Reported posts have come to our staff's attention regarding you in June...none from Toby though. Just thought you should know that. Yeah... I figured Oldmontana didn't like my politics... so he reported it..... I don't know why I didn't report Toby... I figured everyone was reading what he was doing including you... I don't generally report people.. Now I know you enjoyed what he was doing to me...or so it seems... why?
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 13:47:18 GMT -5
Post by Drifter on Jul 23, 2018 13:47:18 GMT -5
Yeah... I figured Oldmontana didn't like my politics... so he reported it..... I don't know why I didn't report Toby... I figured everyone was reading what he was doing... Now I know you enjoyed what he was doing to me... why? Are you that innocent....really? Your post number 8 in this thread and others: Toby tried to debate the subject and you went after him personally. He then followed the same tactics are you did, except, reporting a post.
The sad thing is...freedom of speech was taken to the max between the parties involved. Tit for tat, get the last word in...call it what you want it. But, don't imply I enjoyed the game you both played.
IF the post is NOT reported, which brings it to staff's attention (by the way, there are three of us here, not just me), we will NOT get involved. Can't make it any clearer. And that goes for all our members at these boards.
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 13:56:43 GMT -5
Post by QuickSilver on Jul 23, 2018 13:56:43 GMT -5
Yeah... I figured Oldmontana didn't like my politics... so he reported it..... I don't know why I didn't report Toby... I figured everyone was reading what he was doing... Now I know you enjoyed what he was doing to me... why? Are you that innocent....really? Your post number 8 in this thread and others: Toby tried to debate the subject and you went after him personally. He then followed the same tactics are you did, except, reporting a post.
The sad thing is...freedom of speech was taken to the max between the parties involved. Tit for tat, get the last word in...call it what you want it. But, don't imply I enjoyed the game you both played.
IF the post is NOT reported, which brings it to staff's attention (by the way, there are three of us here, not just me), we will NOT get involved. Can't make it any clearer. And that goes for all our members at these boards.
I'm not going to argue with you Drifter.... I get the message loud and clear..
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Post by tnthomas on Jul 23, 2018 17:22:48 GMT -5
The very first chat room I was on .... Are you sure it wasn't on SF instead? n the beginning I got along with Bad Karma. Till this day I'm not sure why. lol. One day he posted something about people walking across his lawn and he fired a few bullets over their heads! Their car broke down, or something like that, and they were from out of state. I strongly disagreed with him about shooting at people! He believed he was protecting his property from trespassers and from that day on he was on he was my sworn enemy. This all sounds so familiar, there are many more like him now on SF.
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Toby
Jul 23, 2018 21:47:19 GMT -5
Post by birdgal on Jul 23, 2018 21:47:19 GMT -5
It was not the Senior Forums.
It was many years ago. A magazine publishing company started a few chat rooms. A friend of mine was involved in these start up chat rooms. One was a cooking and recipe site and the other was about wild birds. In the beginning it was one big happy family. Too bad. I learned so many helpful things in those chat rooms and made good friends that I was lucky enough to meet in real life.
Another friend suggested I might like these chat rooms and the Senior Forum was the first one I checked out. No thanks. Been there, done that and have no desire to do it again. lol.
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Post by nkat on Jul 23, 2018 22:00:11 GMT -5
It was not the Senior Forums. It was many years ago. A magazine publishing company started a few chat rooms. A friend of mine was involved in these start up chat rooms. One was a cooking and recipe site and the other was about wild birds. In the beginning it was one big happy family. Too bad. I learned so many helpful things in those chat rooms and made good friends that I was lucky enough to meet in real life. Another friend suggested I might like these chat rooms and the Senior Forum was the first one I checked out. No thanks. Been there, done that and have no desire to do it again. lol. I miss that bird chat room! nkat
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Post by Fireheart on Jul 23, 2018 23:59:05 GMT -5
Toby has taken quite a few swipes at me and I just brush them all off and take them with a grain of salt. I'm here to have some fun and maybe learn a thing or two by listening to all the different viewpoints people have. My job as an admin comes in at a very distant second. I don't like playing God and have never asserted my position as an admin EVER in all the years and places I've been at. I don't let things rile me. It really takes a lot to get my feathers ruffled, especially online. After all, it is just the internet and a place for me to come to and relax and hopefully meet some intelligent people such as the ones we have here and enjoy a good convo or debate. It is not that easy for me..... It made my participation here difficult.. I am much happier with him gone.. If he comes back.. and you control him I will stay... if you don't... I'll go... Just ignoring him is not an option.. not when being called names like "Old bat"... "miserable old cow" and worse... It makes my participation uncomfortable and I'm too old to put up with that crap.. I tried fighting back.. but was lumped into a false equivalency with him.. . No more... I refuse to put up with it. We don't "control" anyone. We have a very open forum here. Like I've said before, you can choose to stay or go as you wish. My questions to you are: "Does what he calls you take away from your self-worth?" "Do the things he says change who you are as a person?" The answer to these two questions should be "no"....and if the answer is "no", why do you let him get under your skin so much? Ignoring him IS an option. It's a very real and viable option.
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Post by Fireheart on Jul 24, 2018 0:05:52 GMT -5
One tactic you didn't try was reporting his post.
IF you objected to anything lobbed at you, it should have been reported, by you, at that time. It was not. Therefore, staff will not act upon something that was not reported through the proper channels.
But, FYI...Reported posts have come to our staff's attention regarding you in June...none from Toby though. Just thought you should know that. Yeah... I figured Oldmontana didn't like my politics... so he reported it..... I don't know why I didn't report Toby... I figured everyone was reading what he was doing including you... I don't generally report people.. Now I know you enjoyed what he was doing to me...or so it seems... why? Next time be sure to report the post. We have encountered those that enjoy quite a heated argument and take no real offense to a little tit for tat and/or name calling.....and might actually have been offended if we butted in, SO if you are greatly offended and wish for us to review the issue then please report it so that we can do so.
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Post by Fireheart on Jul 24, 2018 0:27:15 GMT -5
I think he stir up lot of bad feelings but deep down I think he just wanted attention....I never like to see people leave but.... he did hurt some feelings with people.... I know people will tell me that I should have ignored him and not taken the bait when he constantly insulted me and called me names... It's easy for people to say that when they are not the target... it's not so easy when you are.... I'm telling you all... I will LEAVE if that creep comes back.. so actually robusta I want to thank you for bringing it all to a head and getting rid of him. Oh, we (most original members here) know exactly what it's like to be the target in a much more difficult situation than a little heated banter and childish name calling. You have no idea what kind of place (forum) we came from and what online abuse most of us endured there....from the owner/administrator. So, I'm sorry if it seems that we aren't being as sensitive to your upset as you would like, but what little has been said here seems rather trivial in comparison. This place is called "Take Refuge" for a reason....because we all "very seriously" needed a place to take refuge.
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Toby
Jul 31, 2018 19:19:26 GMT -5
Post by tnthomas on Jul 31, 2018 19:19:26 GMT -5
So hey, what's the deal? Both TT and QS not coming here anymore??? Maybe missing "the other" forum...
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Post by chinadoll1981 on Jul 31, 2018 19:35:24 GMT -5
So sad that two people could make each other react that way.... I feel sorry for both of them.... this is place to relax and enjoy each other's company... maybe no always agree, but to make it personal? not a good thing.
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