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Post by 2old on Sept 16, 2021 11:22:42 GMT -5
The following appeared on my FB page this morning. Had to cut and paste it here. Pretty touching....
At the bus stop an old man and a pregnant woman sat waiting for the bus to arrive
The old man was looking at the woman's belly with looks of curiosity until he asked her saying: What month are you?
The woman was absent-minded, and anxiety was leaking from her sad face. At first, she did not pay any attention to the old man's question, but after a few moments she answered saying: I am in the twenty-third week.
The old man replied: Is it your first birth?
The woman answered: Yes
Old man: There is no need for all this fear, do not worry, everything will be fine
The woman put her hand on her stomach and looked in front of him to hold back her tears and said: I really hope so. Old man: It happens that a person's feeling of anxiety sometimes grows over things that do not require him to think so much
She replied in a sad tone, "Maybe."
The old man started more curious and said, "You seem to be going through a difficult period. Why is your husband not by your side?"
He dumped me four months ago
- but why
- It's a little complicated
- What about your family? Your friends, do you have one?
She took a deep breath and said, "I only live with my sick father."
- I understand that you find him a strong bond now as he was when you were young
Tears fell from her eyes and she said, "Yes, even when he is in that condition."
- What is he complaining about?
- He just can't remember who I am
She said her last sentence just moments after the arrival of the bus that would take them, she got up and said: Our bus has arrived, she walked a few steps while the old man remained sitting on the chair, turned back and grabbed him by the hand and said: Let's go, Dad.
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Sept 16, 2021 14:15:34 GMT -5
Post by formerlyme on Sept 16, 2021 14:15:34 GMT -5
Touching, but very sad.
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Sept 16, 2021 17:01:58 GMT -5
Post by 2old on Sept 16, 2021 17:01:58 GMT -5
Touching, but very sad. My age is showing as more and more people I know either are suffering from dementia issues or have loved ones suffering from it. And, many of these are seeing life savings wrested from their hands for long term care. Met with two financial guys over the past couple of weeks. There is virtually no way we can protect everything we've worked for from being gobbled up in a very short time should one or both of us need long term care. Many years ago, we were "talked into" long term care insurance. If I could even find that insurance salesman today, I'd hug him so tight! You can't even purchase a plan like we have anymore. But... even though we took advantage of the times we could increase the daily coverage amount, we will fall considerably short. Medicaid can "claw back" up to 5 years of asset protection. Home... vehicles... life insurance proceeds... trusts... money given to kids... Nothing is sacred. The only way you can protect anything is to dig a hole in your backyard and bury cash!!!! Problem with that is if you have dementia, you won't remember where you buried it!!!!! :>) We are living longer. The medical industry is keeping us alive longer, sometimes way beyond having any quality of life. Why can't Medicare begin covering long term care for the duration of life? I know. The cost would go through the roof. Instead, just anticipate nothing you have today will be available to pass down because it may all go for medical expenses. Sorry! Rant off.....
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Post by Drifter on Sept 16, 2021 21:11:11 GMT -5
I've had similar conversations with my mother. There were days she'd take me back to the late 1930's to early 1940's where I was her girlfriend at a swimming hole, trying to get me to remember and laugh with her about what "we" did when the boys went skinny dipping. One thing you learn when someone is suffering from dementia or Alzheimer's is to just go with the flow and not correct them. It only confusing them and upsets them, if you do. You learn to share, be part of their memory and laugh along with the story they are recalling. I learned a lot about the type of person my mother was during her teenage years and young adult life. Many stories she told.
It is sad to see them living in their past memories, sometimes not knowing who is standing right in front of them. But I reveled in her moments, seeing how happy she was during those years.
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Sept 17, 2021 10:37:44 GMT -5
Post by nkat on Sept 17, 2021 10:37:44 GMT -5
2old, I do not understand what you pasted. It was an old man who was talking and he turned and took his father’s hand?
Nkat
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Sept 17, 2021 18:31:09 GMT -5
Post by Drifter on Sept 17, 2021 18:31:09 GMT -5
nkat It was about a father and daughter having a conversation, waiting at the bus stop for a bus to arrive.
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Post by nkat on Sept 18, 2021 8:37:35 GMT -5
nkat It was about a father and daughter having a conversation, waiting at the bus stop for a bus to arrive. Now a light bulb flicked on! Lol He was talking so sane to his dd. I never experienced someone with dementia. My family mostly died young. Thanks Drifter NKat
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Post by tnthomas on Sept 18, 2021 15:10:16 GMT -5
Wow, very touching.
My dad spent ten years after his stroke in a care facility. Sometimes he would know who I was, sometimes not. He did have a creative imagination, guess it helped fill in the blanks.
One time he told me that he recently returned from Chicago, where Jesus had just been shot. Said it so matter-of-factually. I was pretty sure that my dad hadn't been to Chicago, and that Jesus had not been shot there...
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Sept 18, 2021 15:28:59 GMT -5
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Post by 2old on Sept 18, 2021 15:28:59 GMT -5
The granddaughter working over two years in a nursing home has really brought home the scourge of dementia. I don't remember even hearing the word while growing up. But, people did not live nearly as long as they do today. I could "blame" dementia on our generation growing older and many of us losing touch with reality. Yet, the granddaughter is seeing a number of people in their late 50's and 60's coming in with advanced stages. It makes us less confident each time we can't remember someone's name or misplace something. The pandemic of this past couple years has us questioning every time we sneeze or cough. Likewise, the slightest slipup of an aging mind immediately brings dementia into the thought process.
Like our group of geezers on the golf course. Some of us can no longer see where the ball lands. Some can and tell us. But, we didn't hear them due to our hearing issues. By the time we head out to retrieve the ball, the one who saw it can't remember where it landed. It's heck to get old, but the alternative......... :>)
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Sept 19, 2021 7:13:38 GMT -5
Post by Kady on Sept 19, 2021 7:13:38 GMT -5
The granddaughter working over two years in a nursing home has really brought home the scourge of dementia. I don't remember even hearing the word while growing up. But, people did not live nearly as long as they do today. I could "blame" dementia on our generation growing older and many of us losing touch with reality. Yet, the granddaughter is seeing a number of people in their late 50's and 60's coming in with advanced stages. It makes us less confident each time we can't remember someone's name or misplace something. The pandemic of this past couple years has us questioning every time we sneeze or cough. Likewise, the slightest slipup of an aging mind immediately brings dementia into the thought process. Like our group of geezers on the golf course. Some of us can no longer see where the ball lands. Some can and tell us. But, we didn't hear them due to our hearing issues. By the time we head out to retrieve the ball, the one who saw it can't remember where it landed. It's heck to get old, but the alternative......... :>) Lol....how very true! Funny and sad. I find myself writing down very explicit detailed 'to do' list, trying to ward off mistakes and the opportunity for the kids to check out the local 'homes'.
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Sept 19, 2021 8:26:05 GMT -5
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Post by Sunkist on Sept 19, 2021 8:26:05 GMT -5
The granddaughter working over two years in a nursing home has really brought home the scourge of dementia. I don't remember even hearing the word while growing up. But, people did not live nearly as long as they do today. I could "blame" dementia on our generation growing older and many of us losing touch with reality. Yet, the granddaughter is seeing a number of people in their late 50's and 60's coming in with advanced stages. It makes us less confident each time we can't remember someone's name or misplace something. The pandemic of this past couple years has us questioning every time we sneeze or cough. Likewise, the slightest slipup of an aging mind immediately brings dementia into the thought process. Like our group of geezers on the golf course. Some of us can no longer see where the ball lands. Some can and tell us. But, we didn't hear them due to our hearing issues. By the time we head out to retrieve the ball, the one who saw it can't remember where it landed. It's heck to get old, but the alternative......... :>) And there's also this: mycommentary.weebly.com/lets-not-drug-grandpa.htmlLongevity itself doesn't entirely explain it. One side of my family for example humorously referred to themselves as "long live-ers," most of them didn't pass away til their bodies actually wore out. My grandmother passed away at 97 yrs old- after a slip-and-fall- but she was still "sharp as a tack." My uncle died from kidney failure weeks before his 90th birthday- also sharp and alert. My other grandmother lived to her mid-eighties, passed away from a heart condition, but also never lost her clear mental state. And the elderly folks in the care facility my parents had for many years, none had any age-related mental-health decline, although some were in their 80s and even 90s. With me, I kinda go into panic-mode if I can't place the name of an actor or actress on t.v. that I've seen on some other t.v. show or movie. I usually grasp the name within minutes, but it is a nerve-wracking experience. I also agree with your last statement... and today's my birthday :)
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Post by 2old on Sept 19, 2021 11:55:56 GMT -5
The granddaughter working over two years in a nursing home has really brought home the scourge of dementia. I don't remember even hearing the word while growing up. But, people did not live nearly as long as they do today. I could "blame" dementia on our generation growing older and many of us losing touch with reality. Yet, the granddaughter is seeing a number of people in their late 50's and 60's coming in with advanced stages. It makes us less confident each time we can't remember someone's name or misplace something. The pandemic of this past couple years has us questioning every time we sneeze or cough. Likewise, the slightest slipup of an aging mind immediately brings dementia into the thought process. Like our group of geezers on the golf course. Some of us can no longer see where the ball lands. Some can and tell us. But, we didn't hear them due to our hearing issues. By the time we head out to retrieve the ball, the one who saw it can't remember where it landed. It's heck to get old, but the alternative......... :>) And there's also this: mycommentary.weebly.com/lets-not-drug-grandpa.htmlLongevity itself doesn't entirely explain it. One side of my family for example humorously referred to themselves as "long live-ers," most of them didn't pass away til their bodies actually wore out. My grandmother passed away at 97 yrs old- after a slip-and-fall- but she was still "sharp as a tack." My uncle died from kidney failure weeks before his 90th birthday- also sharp and alert. My other grandmother lived to her mid-eighties, passed away from a heart condition, but also never lost her clear mental state. And the elderly folks in the care facility my parents had for many years, none had any age-related mental-health decline, although some were in their 80s and even 90s. With me, I kinda go into panic-mode if I can't place the name of an actor or actress on t.v. that I've seen on some other t.v. show or movie. I usually grasp the name within minutes, but it is a nerve-wracking experience. I also agree with your last statement... and today's my birthday :) And, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!
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Post by nkat on Sept 19, 2021 15:14:00 GMT -5
Happy Birthday JustMe!
Nkat
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