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Post by Drifter on Feb 25, 2023 14:53:12 GMT -5
How would you deal with someone that is deceptive? Would you say something? Let it go? Knowing they were deceiving you, would you trust them again?
Thoughts?
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Post by louie on Feb 25, 2023 16:20:47 GMT -5
Deception in my view is not acceptable. My step daughter used it on my husband and thought he'd never figure it out. Basically deception from one to another is just lying, pure and simple.
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Post by 2old on Feb 25, 2023 16:31:16 GMT -5
Difficult to answer without knowing more.
1. If I knew they had deceived... or attempted to deceive... me, I would never trust them again.
2. If a business or someone not close, I would call them out.
3. If who I had thought of as a friend, I would ask for a private meeting and make sure they knew I knew. If they owned up, would try to find if this was a one-off or if it had happened before. Depending on their side of the conversation would make a decision as to whether to keep them as a friend or end all contact.
4. Toughest is if the offender is a family member. So many different scenarios. Having issues currently with a family member. He and his "new" wife are making life miserable for me. Out of my control since he's my wife's brother. She doesn't want to upset her entire family. In this specific situation, I have to suck it up no matter how much it hurts. Before the end of the year, his actions may have me selling my golf cart and totally quit playing the game. (I would complete my commitment as President of the Board, but not play any golf.) OTOH, we have a granddaughter who has mental illness. She deceives and we know that. She has a difficult time telling truth from fiction. We've helped her and she has lived a very solid life the past three to four years. But, if she swore the sky was falling, we wouldn't put on hardhats!
Good luck with your particular situation.
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Post by formerlyme on Feb 26, 2023 14:32:56 GMT -5
Anyone who I found out had intentionally deceived me would no longer be worthy of my trust. Even if I forgave them, I would never trust them again. If they continued to deceive or manipulate me, I'd terminate the relationship for good. Of course, this is a much older/wiser me saying that. It's not so easy, if the deceiver is a relative or someone you love, something I learned through bitter personal experience a long time ago.
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