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Post by highlandannie on Jul 9, 2020 12:23:24 GMT -5
Right now my Son is back at the Emergency Room of the VA hospital.. I don't know what is going on as he hasn't called me.. I only know because we have each other and other family members on GPS trackers through our phones.. So.. I see him at the hospital.. I don't know what brought him there.. He obviously drove himself as an ambulance would have taken him to the nearest hospital to his work.. So... again... Here we go again..... and again and again and again and again...…………………...i'm so tired. Sorry to hear this. Hope he is okay!
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Post by highlandannie on Jul 9, 2020 12:30:47 GMT -5
Since we no longer have to stay in our local area, I asked my brother in Michigan to send me the ashes of my son that were set aside for me to sprinkle. They should arrive either Saturday or Monday. I will sprinkle half in Glencoe - a gorgeous mountain area - and other half will be saved for next June to sprinkle at Omaha Beach in Normandy. My other son will go with me. Both of them were/are WWII buffs.
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Post by nkat on Jul 9, 2020 12:51:55 GMT -5
QS I hope that it can resolved at the ER for him and it is not due to drinking.
Annie sending you hugs.
Nkat
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 9, 2020 13:12:11 GMT -5
QS I hope that it can resolved at the ER for him and it is not due to drinking. Annie sending you hugs. Nkat Of course it's because of his drinking.. It is getting worse.. He actually is drinking around the clock now... In Alcoholics lingo it's called Two up and two down... Drink for two hours and pass out for two.. I'm amazed he is still keeping his job.. He leaves work to drive off the property to drink several times a day.. and drinks all evening and thru the night.. or maybe he's been fired... Who knows... The bad part is that I have co-signed his lease for him as his credit is so bad.. I will be on the hook for his rent until the apartment can be sublet. So I haven't yet heard from him.. only that I know he is at the hospital..
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Post by formerlyme on Jul 9, 2020 15:14:29 GMT -5
QuickSilver, so sorry to hear of this latest turn of events with you son.
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Post by louie on Jul 9, 2020 16:25:31 GMT -5
Right now my Son is back at the Emergency Room of the VA hospital.. How heartbreaking.
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Post by nkat on Jul 9, 2020 17:04:18 GMT -5
QS, I had hopes.
Nkat
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Post by highlandannie on Jul 10, 2020 2:53:19 GMT -5
QS I hope that it can resolved at the ER for him and it is not due to drinking. Annie sending you hugs. Nkat Of course it's because of his drinking.. It is getting worse.. He actually is drinking around the clock now... In Alcoholics lingo it's called Two up and two down... Drink for two hours and pass out for two.. I'm amazed he is still keeping his job.. He leaves work to drive off the property to drink several times a day.. and drinks all evening and thru the night.. or maybe he's been fired... Who knows... The bad part is that I have co-signed his lease for him as his credit is so bad.. I will be on the hook for his rent until the apartment can be sublet. So I haven't yet heard from him.. only that I know he is at the hospital.. What do his liver tests say? My husband's brother in Australia was a functioning alcoholic for decades. When his company closed and he was forced to retire, it got worse. Two years ao my husband got a call and was told his brother was about to die. He hopped on a plane next day and when he got there brother was a coma with venitalator. He came out of the coma after about 4 days and had a kind of dementia and couldn't recall what had happened. Took about 6 or 8 months but he finally got better. He hasn't had a drink since then and knows that if he has just one he'll die. He made an amazing recovery (he's 64). He is fine to go to pubs and have a glass of water while others drink. I saw him in Viet Nam early Feb with his wife and he was fine with his wife and I drinking and he had lemonade or tonic. So don't give up on your son.
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 13, 2020 16:27:08 GMT -5
I'm tired.... bone tired of all this... all the bad news... all the staying in the house.. all the political arguing..
I'm getting physically ill from it.. Not sleeping.. poor appetite... jumpy.. bored.. No end in sight. it's exhausting.
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Post by nkat on Jul 13, 2020 17:22:48 GMT -5
QS, I hear you. Thought to myself yesterday this all is really depressing. Getting my hair done tomorrow and thought this should be really interesting with the wearing of the masks. So looking forward to sitting under a hair drier with a mask on. I really do not want to go anywhere.
Nkat
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 14, 2020 6:44:30 GMT -5
QS, I hear you. Thought to myself yesterday this all is really depressing. Getting my hair done tomorrow and thought this should be really interesting with the wearing of the masks. So looking forward to sitting under a hair drier with a mask on. I really do not want to go anywhere. Nkat I desperately need a haircut. but I'm afraid to go.. Why should I bother getting one? I don't go anywhere.. no one sees me.. I also miss having a nice pedicure and painted toenails with my sandals... I suppose I could paint my own.. but again.. for what? No one sees me.. Yes.. it's depressing...
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Post by nkat on Jul 14, 2020 9:43:17 GMT -5
QS do it for yourself! My shop only has 2 hairdressers and I will wait in the car until they call me in.
Nkat
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Post by formerlyme on Jul 14, 2020 10:01:43 GMT -5
Like you, QuickSilver , I'm afraid to go for a haircut. It's been over 4 months since I had one, and my hair is starting to look very shaggy. I haven't gone anywhere since March 5 because my age and health status make me feel extremely vulnerable. It can all be quite a drag, so I understand your feelings.
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Post by rosa427 on Jul 14, 2020 13:13:47 GMT -5
QS, I hear you. Thought to myself yesterday this all is really depressing. Getting my hair done tomorrow and thought this should be really interesting with the wearing of the masks. So looking forward to sitting under a hair drier with a mask on. I really do not want to go anywhere. Nkat I desperately need a haircut. but I'm afraid to go.. Why should I bother getting one? I don't go anywhere.. no one sees me.. I also miss having a nice pedicure and painted toenails with my sandals... I suppose I could paint my own.. but again.. for what? No one sees me.. Yes.. it's depressing... Hi QS, I understand your feelings, I have them now and again, I get that why bother feeling ever so often and realize, I'm letting my chemical imbalance overpower my mind. What I then do is find ways to combat that with what can I do to change the narrative in my brain, do I let it win or do I decide to brighten the mood with a different focus even just for the moment. It isn't easy, but then what's the alternative and yes, I go there too now and again. But, I just make a decision to push through, sometimes not in a good way because I've devoured an entire box of crackers or cookies on occasion. Either way, I just find a way to pull me out of the funk as only I can really do especially not having a therapist on hand who doesn't get on my nerves. Last week I had my second mani-pedi since the pandemic went into overload, it's a nice feeling getting out and doing something nice for oneself during these trying times. Day after my pedi, I went and had my brows microbladed; I do wish I'd known about the healing and aftercare process, that hasn't been life shattering, but, I wish I was prepared for what I would see in the mirror for several days past and to come till these dang brows have fully healed, I'm glad I did it. I think you should go all in for a day or more of pampering it would do your mind good and your body too. If it were in my budget, I'd probably go for a full day of pampering at least twice a week.. Do it girl, do all those things within reason you've been putting on the back burner that would put some joy in your heart. I know everyday is mostly just like another and we feel what's the point especially in light of all that's going on it's damn depressing for sure, but, we're here, we can only do what we can do to contribute regardless of those around us doing what they are doing. Sometimes you just have to tune it all out and give self love and care to rejuvenate ones soul. Why bother, because you are here and you might as well find ways to make the best of it or decide to revel in misery day after day. It does at some point become a choice and we all deserve better and we're bigger than it all especially considering all that we've already weathered. If we can pull through all that we've been through in the past, we can't find a way to get through these difficult days. I so wish for you to find some peacefulness, some joy and love for yourself. QS, you for sure have put in so much, you did more than most in trying to love others back to health, sometimes it pays off, sometimes not, but, you did more than most and I so hope you find a way to let go and spend time on you and hubby enjoying your future days. Hugs dear lady. but, I think, well since I'm here, what can I do to make myself feel better. I went for my second pedi mani in the past couple of months
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Post by rosa427 on Jul 14, 2020 13:27:33 GMT -5
Like you, QuickSilver , I'm afraid to go for a haircut. It's been over 4 months since I had one, and my hair is starting to look very shaggy. I haven't gone anywhere since March 5 because my age and health status make me feel extremely vulnerable. It can all be quite a drag, so I understand your feelings. Most places are following strict codes of practice. I have gone for a few salon visits in the past several weeks. I wear my mask, I don't touch my face or eyes without sanitizing, I watch everything they do in the salons and if I think something's amiss, I don't have a problem speaking up on it. I feel confident when I make use of the facilities I have. Ask questions when booking an appointment about their safety precautions that they follow if that will help ease some of your fears. My age and health also make my being in the wrong place and time precarious, which is why I make sure I and the people I plan to interact with follow a standard of conduct conducive to the recommendation of the CDC and other practitioners. I spritz and spray everywhere around me don't care about the raised eyebrow looks from others, they shouldn't be so close if their offended. My mask is for sure there to keep me on my toes as I know without it, my hands would be in my face, no matter how hard I try to avoid it so the mask goes everywhere and same for constant hand sanitizing. Go forth young lady and schedule that haircut. Pic of my brow I had microbladed last week. You don't want to see what it looks like this moment, it ain't purty, but, part of the healing process people don't mention.
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