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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 1, 2018 15:24:46 GMT -5
Do you believe a person should always be truthful? Or is a fib now and again the kindest policy?
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Post by nkat on Jul 1, 2018 16:25:57 GMT -5
I think a fib is the kindest policy.
nkat
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 1, 2018 17:14:08 GMT -5
I think a fib is the kindest policy.
nkat I agree.. I have no problem telling someone a fib if it spares their feelings.. and especially when it does no harm to them.. like complimenting a bad haircut.. or an ugly dress... It does no harm..
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 1, 2018 17:15:51 GMT -5
I think a fib is the kindest policy.
nkat I agree.. I have no problem telling someone a fib if it spares their feelings.. and especially when it does no harm to them.. like complimenting a bad haircut.. or an ugly dress... It does no harm.. What I do have a problem with is people who use "honesty" as a weapon.. They seem to enjoy hurting people's feelings and defending it with "Just being honest"... IMO there is no virtue in that.. only cruelty.
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Post by tnthomas on Jul 1, 2018 18:09:19 GMT -5
So, when the wifey asks "does this dress make me look fat?" and I reply "no"...am I still going to be considered a lying no-good male?
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 1, 2018 18:13:52 GMT -5
So, when the wifey asks "does this dress make me look fat?" and I reply "no"...am I still going to be considered a lying no-good male? Perhaps... but you will live to see another day.
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Post by chinadoll1981 on Jul 1, 2018 18:59:47 GMT -5
人行有脚印鸟过有落毛
When a person walks, he leaves traces when a bird flies it leaves feathers
(The truth cannot be hidden. Eventually it will be revealed) best not to fib.... even little one!
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 1, 2018 19:15:47 GMT -5
人行有脚印鸟过有落毛
When a person walks, he leaves traces when a bird flies it leaves feathers
(The truth cannot be hidden. Eventually it will be revealed) best not to fib.... even little one! So you would hurt someone's feelings and upset them just so you can say you are always honest? What is the harm in telling them what they want to hear.. Do you mean if Rebecca bought an outfit she thought was just perfect and thought she looked great in you would tell her she looked horrible... even if you thought so?
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Post by tnthomas on Jul 1, 2018 19:30:44 GMT -5
So, when the wifey asks "does this dress make me look fat?" and I reply "no"...am I still going to be considered a lying no-good male? Perhaps... but you will live to see another day. ROFL!
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Post by rebecca2013 on Jul 2, 2018 4:51:46 GMT -5
人行有脚印鸟过有落毛
When a person walks, he leaves traces when a bird flies it leaves feathers
(The truth cannot be hidden. Eventually it will be revealed) best not to fib.... even little one! So you would hurt someone's feelings and upset them just so you can say you are always honest? What is the harm in telling them what they want to hear.. Do you mean if Rebecca bought an outfit she thought was just perfect and thought she looked great in you would tell her she looked horrible... even if you thought so? I for one treasure the fact that she is honest... she says what she means.... means what she says.... I trust her completely because she is honest.... I can't say that about many people.... and if she said my outfit was trash.... well.... I would punch her but..... no seriously.... Ziyi isn't someone who would hurt your feelings... and she hasn't in all the years we have been partners.....
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 2, 2018 6:47:09 GMT -5
OK... that's great... I wasn't trying to insult her.. just debating a point..
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Post by rebecca2013 on Jul 2, 2018 7:52:32 GMT -5
OK... that's great... I wasn't trying to insult her.. just debating a point.. nooooooooo.... I didn't think you were trying to insult her..... not at all..... She is just one of those people who will be totally upfront with you....
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 2, 2018 9:42:33 GMT -5
OK... that's great... I wasn't trying to insult her.. just debating a point.. nooooooooo.... I didn't think you were trying to insult her..... not at all..... She is just one of those people who will be totally upfront with you.... I also like to be "upfront" with people... but only if my comments are of real importance.. Like preventing them from hurting themselves or others.. If someone's behavior is dangerous to them.. physically or mentally... like if someone is so overweight it's a danger to them I will be totally honest and tell them they need to do something about it.. However, I see nothing wrong with tempering my honesty when it comes to matters of no real lasting importance, like for example, a bad haircut.. or a poor fashion choice. Hair grows out... outfits can be changed... but the hurt feelings last. This was the point I am making.. Now perhaps some folks want to be told their haircut is terrible.. or their clothing makes them look like a fool... I don't really want to do that, preferring to pick my battles.. particularly with someone who is important to me.
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Post by Drifter on Jul 2, 2018 10:18:29 GMT -5
Fat shaming never works.
I'd rather be upfront & honest than putting up the facade using white lies. If someone doesn't like my honesty, then they can stop asking me for my opinion re: their hair, clothes, etc.
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Post by QuickSilver on Jul 2, 2018 10:25:42 GMT -5
Fat shaming never works.
I'd rather be upfront & honest than putting up the facade using white lies. If someone doesn't like my honesty, then they can stop asking me for my opinion re: their hair, clothes, etc. If someone continues to hurt my feelings under the guise of "brutal" honesty.. I would do more than stop asking their opinion... I would avoid them completely.. there is no reason to be insulting and then pretend you are doing it for their own good... particularly when a little white lie would salvage their feelings. It's a form of bullying. The minute someone says to me.. "I'm always brutally honest" I know they really don't anyone's best interest at heart.. they are looking to be cruel.
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